[duncdobe]

one thing they say

is not to ever make a big deal about coming home or leaving.

No, ok my love I'm leaving now so be a good boy.

No, when you come home being all lovey dovey oh I've missed you so much, blah, blah, blah.

As Cesar says no affection until their calm and submissive.

 

[duncdobe]

ummmm

dogs aren't humans in fur; so two completely different things.

countless trainers tell people not to make a big deal about coming or going because it can create anxiety.

Also that was only a small part of Cesar's approach. A lot of walking is involved as well.

I actually watched Stanley Coren (not that he's the end all be all or Cesar etc..) on his TV show working with a fellow who's dog had separation anxiety and he said absolutely no attention when coming and going. It was great to see how the dog came along.

 

[duncdobe]

The walking thing

how he explains it; is it's not just an exercise thing. You're walking your dog with the dog right beside you; no wandering at the end of the leash/flexi sniffing everything and marking everything.

It's the two of your going on a long walk. Breaks here and there for a pee or poo but on your terms not the dogs terms.

It's a way of establishing leadership. It seems a lot of people (average joes) have problems with leadership in the house and the dogs rule the homes.

You may want to take your dog for a walk like that before leaving him at your folks. That way he's gotten his energy out and he should be nice and relaxed at their house.

do you get anxious when you leave him there? If so he might be sensing that.

There's not reason for him not to settle down when he's somewhere he's been tons of time and there are people there.

when I'm leaving the house I'd tell me dog he's staying home and he'd just march off and go to bed..