[Dobesanddragons]

I agree duncdobe. It is a matter of fact thing when I leave, no special attention at all. Just a fact of life that they have to get used to, I will come and go sometimes. When I can though I take them with me if at possible, but sometimes that can't happen.

But each person has their own way of doing things that works for them. Molari if that works for your particular dog; then I see nothing wrong with it.

I don't like extreme frantic craziness when I come home so I keep the coming home low key. That is fine later but I don't want to be mauled by dogs coming in the door and I don't want guests to be either. I like being greeted and like coming home to happy dogs but sometimes it can get out of hand with certain dogs.

In a book I read it was recommended you ignore the dog for 5 minutes when coming home. I believe it was the dog listener by Jan Fennell. I didn't agree with that for me but I could see how if your dog goes crazy on the coming home greeting how that would help. I did do a modified version of that for a bit and it helped the greetings be not such a huge deal.

One of my Dobe's grabs a toy and runs in circles upon my return. He used to throw himself at my face trying to give me kisses and do zoomies of happiness, he was crazy. I like the toy routine much better and so does everyone else =)

 

[Dobesanddragons]

I believe the book said wait longer than 5 minutes to greet, maybe 15 minutes. It has been awhile since I read that book, can't remember the exact time she suggested.

 

[Dobesanddragons]

If you or he means do not use that high pitched annoying dog voice that a lot of people use that gets their dogs all excited as they are leaving then ok but if he means just leave then no, I think it is completely wrong. IMO you are better off giving the dog an instruction and a message when you leave. You are absolutely right dogs are not humans in fur but they are not that far apart in how they react to stimuli. Love and respect generally get the same response from either. If this is their formula for fixing a dog that has this problem maybe so but I prefer not to come to that point

I don't think it is completely wrong at all. Just because some individuals choose not to make a big deal or give dogs a "message" before they leave doesn't mean they don't love or respect their dogs.
I do understand sometimes some people feel the need to do something or say something before they leave the house.
Every dog and every situation is different, but I think overall the best approach is to just leave and just return, not making a big deal at all - esp. with high energy dogs that get excited easily.