How to conquer jealousy between two dogs??

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lanabana

Discussion Starter · Jan 16, 2007

I need some advice on some jealousy developing between two of my dogs. My male unfixed Dobie just turned a year old. My female spayed pit/pointer is 4 years old. They have been having a jealousy issue that has developed only in the past week or two. Callie (pit) demands attention and is always very affectionate - wants to be on my lap, pet all the time...etc (yes, I know this behavior has been reinforced by me). Bumpy, my Dobie has started to want the attention himself. If Callie gets on the couch, Bumpy jumps on, Callie leaves. If Callie has a toy, Bumpy grabs it out of her mouth and takes it. If Bumpy is on the bed, Callie has to be closer to the top and to me. If I am on the computer it is a competition to see who can push my arm with their head the most to get my attention...it is non stop. If I invite Bumpy on the couch, Callie whines, digs in her bed, paces, leaves the room, comes back, whines...etc...you get the picture. At this point there is no aggression, but I am concerned that it may escalate if it continues in this manner. Any advice on how to fix this situation and how I can convey that I am the pack leader and stop this jealousy before it becomes worse? My third dog, the older one, could care less and has never had this type of issue so I am not familiar with how to handle it. I know that it is entirely up to me to stop the behavior, just not sure how to do it.

Any advice?

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PeeWeesMama

· #2 · Jan 16, 2007

I can't remember, what was the reason you have not neutered him?

BackInBlack

· #3 · Jan 17, 2007

I think it was because of his clotting time, they are waiting.

lanabana

Discussion Starter · #4 · Jan 17, 2007

I am aiming for late February for the neutering, it is just quite expensive to get the cryoprecipitate that he may need for his possible clotting problem. I saw that someone wrote that their vet is $300, but unfortunately here it seems to be closer to $1,000.

Codysmom

· #5 · Jan 17, 2007

what has worked for us is NILIF (nothing in life is free) our dogs have to sit and stay before they get food - meals or treat. they have to sit if they want to be petted. since Molly causes problems on our bed, she gets kicked off as Pollo was here first. they have to earn every priveledge they get.

they complain at first, so be prepared. but it does work

cc

PeeWeesMama

· #6 · Jan 17, 2007

lanabana said:
I am aiming for late February for the neutering, it is just quite expensive to get the cryoprecipitate that he may need for his possible clotting problem. I saw that someone wrote that their vet is $300, but unfortunately here it seems to be closer to $1,000.

That's right, I forgot, sorry so many Dobes to keep up with LOL!!!

lanabana

Discussion Starter · #7 · Jan 17, 2007

Ok, I will try that. What about when he steals her toys out of her mouth, etc? Do I allow that or do I not interfere since they don't fight? I doubt this goes on when I am not in the room, this seems to be for my attention I think.

DreamDoby

· #8 · Jan 17, 2007

I like to use the NILIF also. It works for one pushy boy that I have. If you give him an inch, he takes a mile and half. He is the worst jealous dog that I have. Claims me at every turn. He will try to sit between me and other new people so they can not be next to me. He is really obsessive. He knows his bounds though and who rules the house. Not giving him attention and ignoring him is the worst punishment in his mind.

Stealing the toy is the same thing in my house. It is not acceptable for them to do that. I always hear about it in the end with someone whining to me. The toy is quietly taken away and given back to dog that it was taken from. Then I just walk away. He learns that everytime he steals the toy, it is given back and he loses it. It doesn't happen that frequently in my house. No gain in the end. That is just my opinion on it though.

Kratty

· #9 · Jan 17, 2007

I think that if they are being pushy about getting attention and you give into it, they learn that if they keep doing this they get what they want. Bad behavior gets attention. Whenever my girl gets pushy, I don't acknowledge it and may give her a time out to change this behavior. She doesn't get rewarded for this behavior.

JavasMom

· #10 · Jan 17, 2007

Gosh it's just like having young children in the house isn't it?

Codysmom

· #11 · Jan 17, 2007

Exactly like a house full of three year olds! - but they are much faster....

lanabana

Discussion Starter · #12 · Jan 17, 2007

Thank you - all of this advice makes sense. I started implementing these things last night and made each sit before they could get pets, sit before dinner and just ignored them when they were being spoiled rotten brats - lol. I don't need to have kids, I think I have a house full of the four legged kind.They are driving me crazy

DreamDoby

· #13 · Jan 18, 2007

JavasMom said:
Gosh it's just like having young children in the house isn't it?

I think it is much better. Some of the kids I see running around, I look at my dogs and thank my lucky stars that I have them and not those kids. If I ever have kids, people will look at me like I'm a nut using dog training tactics on them. But it worked on the dogs! Hmmm. Don't they have kid leashes? :help_up_2 :emo8:

Dobesanddragons

· #14 · Jan 18, 2007

DreamDoby said:
Hmmm. Don't they have kid leashes? :help_up_2 :emo8:

They actually do! lol! I have seen parents use them on small kids. It attaches to the wrist of the child. :eek2:
My youngest sister used to have a lot of fun with my parents in clothing stores, she would hide between the racks and wait for them to panic and go looking for her, she would mostly not make a sound, sometimes she couldn't help but giggle.
The worst time was when she got lost at a large amusement park. Thankfully she knew where to go (to a person who worked at the park). This kiddo was always up to something.
She is an adult now, and still is usually up to something

BackInBlack

· #15 · Jan 18, 2007

Hahahahahaha, I used to do that to my parents to.

Acooper

· #16 · Jan 18, 2007

DandD, I have one of those in my house too (the youngest). He loves to slip off when we arent' looking, hide in clothes racks, go to the toy department without notice, etc.... I have had my share of coronary trouble because of him!

Kratty

· #17 · Jan 18, 2007

DreamDoby said:
Don't they have kid leashes? :help_up_2 :emo8:

When I was a small child and I went shopping with Mom, I thought I was special to get a yellow balloon each and every time we went. She would always tie it to my wrist. It was only later in life I learned it was her homemade tracking device to keep tabs on me. Go figure.

Acooper

· #18 · Jan 18, 2007

Smart lady, and good Idea for some of us!

DreamDoby

· #19 · Jan 18, 2007 (Edited)

dobesanddragons said:
They actually do! lol! I have seen parents use them on small kids. It attaches to the wrist of the child. :eek2:

I knew they made them! But I was thinking more like halters. I know I have seen them somewhere.

Kratty- Your mom was a smart woman keeping an eye on you like that. Much more hidden than the leash idea.

lanabana

Discussion Starter · #20 · Jan 18, 2007

The balloon thing is hilarious - great idea....

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