Join Date: Sep 2007
Dogs Name: Ori AKA Harold DogDog (Hairy Dog), RIP Caesar, Katana, Kip, Capri
Titles: DogDog Mouthe Extraordinaire; Kip Mr. Behavior; Capri Mis-Behavior
Dogs Age: DogDog 2 yrs?; RIP Kip 11 yrs; Capri 7 yrs; Katana 9 yrs; Caesar 13 yrs
Gallery Pics: 6 Visit melbrod's Gallery
Thanked 54,850 Times in 17,537 Posts
In reference to your comments about bloat and exercise--Per an article in Whole Dog:
"It is often recommended that limiting exercise and water before and after eating will decrease the risk of bloat. However, in one of the Purdue studies, while exercise or excessive water consumption around meal time initially seemed to affect likelihood of GDV, when other factors were taken into account, such as having a close relative with a history of GDV, in a “multivariate model,” these factors were no longer associated with an increased risk of bloat.
Or, more simply put, “there seems to be no advantage to restricting water intake or exercise before or after eating,” says Dr. Glickman.”
One way or another, exercise 2 and a half hours after being fed is unlikely to cause bloat.
Yes, bloat can be rapidly fatal--but a dog that is bloating would certainly not be running around happily and then drop dead from bloat with an inverted stomach the next minute. You would see the dog stopping his exercise, drooling, looking anxious, pacing or acting restless, trying to vomit with nothing coming up--acting as if they were in severe pain--not running around playing happily with a ball and then suddenly keeling over.
When one of my dogs bloated, he woke up out of a sound sleep at 2 AM--many hours after he had eaten and certainly a long time after any exercise--and grew progressively worse with the symptoms noted above--we got him to a vet within the hour, where he had surgery to correct his twisted stomach--but he certainly was not symptomless as his condition worsened.
You seem to be grasping for answers, any answer, and attaching blame to anyone you can, as a way to deal with your pain and loss. That is a natural response during grief--but it is not productive in the long run. Certainly everyone grieves in a different way and for a different length of time--but I think your response is on the extreme side based on your posts.
Stop blaming yourself; stop blaming your boyfriend. Get counseling to help you recover from the shock you have experienced.
I think everyone here understands the shock and loss of suddenly losing a special friend--we all have a special place in our hearts for our beloved dogs. And we all wonder why such a terrible thing has happened and wonder what we could have done differently. But I do not think your beloved dog would want to see you so unhappy at her passing. I think she would want you to remember her as she was at play, at her best and happiest--not kicking yourself or your boyfriend for failing her.
Because you didn’t fail her. It was time for her to go, I think--that time comes for all of us, and in many cases suddenly and unexpectedly, not because of anyone else's inappropriate actions or inactions. She is gone, yes, and the particular space she occupied in your heart can never be filled completely. But you can, and will, be able to have happy memories of her one day and to smile when you remember the special things she did that made you both happy.
I do sincerely feel, though, that you need some help to talk you through your grief and help you reach that point. Please seek it out--before you damage yourself and your relationships with others more severely.
Last edited by melbrod; 04-03-2016 at 09:53 PM.