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05-05-2015 02:27 PM
Yul Thank you for the article. Our Maximus died of DCM at the age of 5 a little over 3 months ago. It was TOTALLY unexpected, his just dropped dead in front of me and my daughter as we were playing with him outside. I still cry even though we got a new pup couple weeks ago. She is a sweetheart, but it doesnt take away the pain of losing Max...
12-26-2014 08:23 PM
LindaH
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Originally Posted by mshold1 View Post
I had to have Lexus my 12 year old Blue put to sleep on Christmas Eve, it has been hard for me as well as my 2 year old Laila. Laila is looking for Lexus and whimpering. The tears will eventually stop by not the remembrance. A whole was just snatched into my heart.
They literally take a piece of your heart with them when they leave.
12-26-2014 06:53 PM
mshold1
Lexus - Blue Lady of Love

I had to have Lexus my 12 year old Blue put to sleep on Christmas Eve, it has been hard for me as well as my 2 year old Laila. Laila is looking for Lexus and whimpering. The tears will eventually stop by not the remembrance. A whole was just snatched into my heart.
12-10-2014 08:25 PM
looking4trth Sometimes it even hurts more!!

L4T
12-16-2013 12:27 PM
triciakoontz Thanks Linda! Great article,
12-16-2013 12:27 PM
Anja'sMom Excellent article. Writing does so much to help heal, and he does it very well. I, too, think he should be invited to DT.
12-16-2013 11:16 AM
dobedream
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Originally Posted by judim View Post
Will miss her so much. When do the tears stop? When does the grieving end?
Welcome. Please consider sharing your girl with us, and your grief. There are so many here that understand your loss, and it may help.
12-14-2013 04:31 PM
judim
So hard to lose your best friend and companion...

Will miss her so much. When do the tears stop? When does the grieving end?
06-19-2013 01:33 PM
dobedream I think Rudyard Kipling summed it up a hundred years ago with "The Power of the Dog."
https://www.google.ca/url?sa=t&rct=j...JZUxHrS6WHwEZw
06-19-2013 12:29 PM
Sfaqt18 The sudden death of my 10 year old dobie a week ago to DCM brought me to this forum. Thank you for the article. It's good to know I'm not the only one struggling with the guilt that her death may be harder than some of my relatives passing. I also had the daunting task of explains to my 3.5 year old where savannah went. Has anyone read "Up In heaven"? It's a good book about a dog who sent his little boy dreams of her to make him feel better. Couldn't get through reading it to my daughter without bawling.
01-31-2013 12:14 PM
Matey i have had relatives die it didnt up set me as much as the death of my pet
01-26-2013 08:37 AM
Shell81
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The first horse we lost I totally fell apart and bawled like a baby for months.
I grew up on a Morgan show farm, and I professionally train. Add that to also being a tech (large animal and equine as well as small animal), and I've seen a lot of horses euthanized/pass away. I say that because even though I'm "used to it" for lack of a better term, when I lost my "special horse" (he was that "one", which I know other horse people know what I mean, just like our heart dogs), I couldn't function for months after he passed. I had had him for 18 years, he and I made an incredible show team (although he was a born show horse, I don't think he really needed me), and our bond was so incredibly deep. To this day he remains the very best friend I have ever had, he "got" me, we connected deeper than I have ever connected with anyone or any other animal.

My family bought him for me when I was 6, he was to be my main personal show horse (they couldn't pass up this horse even though he wasn't really a kids horse). Thing was, he was young too, and A LOT of horse. We weren't well matched when I was little, but even then we bonded so closely that I could safely ride him. He passed when we were 24 (we were the same age). That horse took care of me when I was little, and then challenged me (A LOT) as I became a strong rider. I credit him with helping to develop me into the rider I am now. We cleaned up wherever we went, and I can safely say the only living things I have ever loved more than him are my 2 kids.

I rambled but the little bit of post I quoted made me feel compelled to share that story. He really was the love of my life, and I miss him every single day (I'm 32 now, so he's been gone a while). I have an incredible graphite drawing of him that I had commissioned, on my living room wall (and I talk to it/him every morning). My guest room is also the "show award room", and I have a special spot for the most special of his awards, plus many of his show photos framed there. I still feel his presence all the time, if that makes sense. I kind of sound crazy now, but yeah he took a piece of me with him when he passed, and I hope he's waiting at the bridge for me (with my Quin dog, and other loved pets), when it's my time.
01-26-2013 08:16 AM
KissNme The first horse we lost I totally fell apart and bawled like a baby for months. I really was no help to my poor children. As the months went on I began to understand that the love of an animal is so pure with basically no harshness and all unconditional that it is hard to imagine or have that between humans. Doesn't mean we don't love people as much. But when the air finally cleared I could think of dear Hope with nothing but pure wonder and joy and the gladness of owning her. It took a LONG time to get past the pain to the pure love and memories. I don't dwell on that part of having Kiss, but I'm not dumb. I know it is something I may have to face. Sometimes I even worry more what would happen if SHE lost me. That's scary, too!
01-25-2013 11:14 PM
LindaH You know, this might be s good sticky for the rainbow bridge forum.

Thanks pdubois, you're a life saver!
01-25-2013 08:59 PM
pdubois64
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Originally Posted by LindaH View Post
Not sure exactly how old the article is, so I hope the group is still meeting. Maybe let us know by posting on here or making a new thread. I really hope it is as that could help so much.
By Joe Yonan, Published: March 26, 2012
01-25-2013 07:53 PM
[email protected] Sure will, I have a name and phone number. I hope still meets at the Fairfax County Animal Shelter on West Ox Road, I'll let you guys know.
01-25-2013 05:44 PM
LindaH
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Thank you for posting this. It explains a lot about my intense feelings of loss that I've been exeriencing since Gracie passed away New Year's Eve. It's nice to know that I'm not alone in these feelings. The article also mentioned a pet grieving group that meets near where I live every 3rd Wednesday of the month. I'm definitely going the next time they meet. Thank you!
Not sure exactly how old the article is, so I hope the group is still meeting. Maybe let us know by posting on here or making a new thread. I really hope it is as that could help so much.
01-25-2013 03:32 PM
[email protected] Thank you for posting this. It explains a lot about my intense feelings of loss that I've been exeriencing since Gracie passed away New Year's Eve. It's nice to know that I'm not alone in these feelings. The article also mentioned a pet grieving group that meets near where I live every 3rd Wednesday of the month. I'm definitely going the next time they meet. Thank you!
01-25-2013 04:18 AM
Toby'shuman We all deal with loss in our own way.

Some of us 'brush it off' (not me personally).
Some of us 'lose it' (yep I do that)
Some of us 'don't know how to convey what we feel'.

This guy hit it the nail right on the head with his writing.

May all out beloved pets, whatever they were who have passed before us be waiting at the Bridge when our time comes and lead us to eternal paradise with them by our sides.
01-25-2013 03:41 AM
latere
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Originally Posted by LindaH View Post
Totally understand your fear, but that worry should be a long way off.

I've wondered if anyone has explained to him that his Red probably had DCM.



I hope you managed to read all of the article as it explained and made sense of why we feel the way we do when we lose a beloved pet. This guy certainly has a way with words. You can see how he makes his living writing.
It made sense of it, didn't make experiencing those feelings any easier lol sigh ...


I think the best part of the article is that it helps someone feel a lot less alone in their loss.
01-24-2013 11:58 PM
EmilyB Yes, very good article. Came up shortly after I lost Priscilla, and has stuck with me. I pass it along to many people.

https://www.dobermantalk.com/doberman...death-pet.html
01-24-2013 11:38 PM
LindaH
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Originally Posted by dax0402 View Post
Thanks for posting this Linda. Feel like we need to invite him to join DT! My biggest fear (and I try not to think about it too much or dwell on it) is coming home from the store or shopping and finding that Baron has gone to the Bridge without me being there. I was with all my Dobes and even my horse when they left me. But with Baron's DCM, this scares the hell out of me.
Totally understand your fear, but that worry should be a long way off.

I've wondered if anyone has explained to him that his Red probably had DCM.

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Originally Posted by latere View Post
This thread/that article made me shut down a bit emotionally. If I didn't, it'd be days before I would be getting out of bed... I still haven't quite managed to deal with the loss of mine.

That aside, I'm really thankful you shared this Linda. Seeing people out there that understand and are familiar with that crippling and mind-numbing pain will certainly make those experiencing that loss a lot less alone.


For those who don't have strong families, losing a dobe (the description of love, devotion and loyalty) is something that is beyond words.
I hope you managed to read all of the article as it explained and made sense of why we feel the way we do when we lose a beloved pet. This guy certainly has a way with words. You can see how he makes his living writing.
01-24-2013 11:08 PM
pdubois64 It's been four months since I lost Dillon and it seems like yesterday. Losing him was by far the worst loss I've dealt with in my 48 years.
01-24-2013 11:02 PM
latere This thread/that article made me shut down a bit emotionally. If I didn't, it'd be days before I would be getting out of bed... I still haven't quite managed to deal with the loss of mine.

That aside, I'm really thankful you shared this Linda. Seeing people out there that understand and are familiar with that crippling and mind-numbing pain will certainly make those experiencing that loss a lot less alone.


For those who don't have strong families, losing a dobe (the description of love, devotion and loyalty) is something that is beyond words.
01-24-2013 09:22 PM
LindaH
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Grrrrrr


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