Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Rockaway Park, N.Y.
Dogs Name: Hero; Past dobes: Angelique, Tara. May my beloved babies all rest in peace.
Titles: Hero, RN; Angelique - rescued and Tara - Best at Licking one to death!
Dogs Age: Hero - 2 yrs. 4 mos. born on 04/4/10
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4X4, please don't leave this site. I know it can be a bit much at times. I've had a few run-ins myself--not about the way I've treated my dog, but in support of some newbies before. I have to admit I was aghast of some of the things you first said. But then I started to see that you are at least staying on listening and making some attempts even though I'm sure you are really defensive right now and want to blow off most of the people posting.
MeadowCat: I am ashamed of myself as well. I may not have posted, but I thanked a lot of people on here--some of which I probably shouldn't have--but I did agree with their thoughts at the time. Then I just read your latest post and probably because I was a teacher with at risk kids, it made sense. I was reacting to the posts emotionally and not thinking in the teacher mode. Teenagers will shut down if all you do is point out their shortcomings. I really think the OP will come around in time, but will fail to do so and shut down like the teens I had taught. I know most of you are worried about the dog roaming--maybe that should be addressed foremost now that the dog has seen the vet and leave the rest alone for awhile--that way the OP will read and learn more from this site and, in the future, will feel free to ask for more advice. Remember this seems to be his first dog and he really wasn't into animals. He is learning. I had to learn a few things the hard way, even though I had dogs as a child. My first dobe was a stray I had bought from a man on the street in Galveston, TX. I treated it at first like any other dog I've had and my family wasn't that knowledgeable about dogs even though they owned them. I did not think that it was bad to keep a dog chained outside, but because I loved them so much, I did not want them outside for any length of time. I wanted them with me--always was a softy when it came to animals. And because of that love, Angelique taught me some of what I know now and from other people I'd run into if I was doing something wrong like giving her a swat. And because of that love I gained from my rescued girl and having fallen in love with the breed and her (at first my thought was to buy her and then sell her for more money because she was a purebred but rapidly fell in love with her even though I was wary of the breed, I had favored Irish Setters), I purchased Tara (bought from a byb [old couple]). I read everything I could get my hands on--not bad for a wild child because that's what I was when I was 19--Hippy days and all. (I didn't go to college to learn teaching until I was in my mid-thirties--THANK GOD, I would have majored in the beach and partying). I did learn a lot with Angelique and Tara. Because Tara was a dobe and, deluded and unlearned as I was, I thought she could become a show dog, I started attending dog things like obedience and joined the Galveston Kennel Club back then and started learning even more. I owe this site for even learning more, and I think it is quite evident (at least visibly) when you see the condition my Hero is in and the titles he has gotten, the RN and the latest is his CGC along with some points in the show ring.
I will tell you all the truth, if I had been to this site when I got Tara (already having learned some stuff from having Angelique), I probably would be one of the newbies that left with all the things I was doing wrong. I won't apologize for that statement, because it is true. I was always one for learning most things on my own and used to be quite defensive when I was younger having had spent most of my teen years in foster homes because of the abuse at home (I won't go into what types of abuse here).
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