Sometimes we, being the human beings that we are, inadvertently place our friends and/or people that we know on a pedestal. This is unfair to the friend, as well as to ourselves. By doing so, the friendship or idealization will inevitably lead to disappointment or failure. There are very few people that can live up to anothers expectations or idealizations. There are even fewer, if given the choice, who would want to be held at/to such a high regard.
To expect anything of a friend that has not been implied, offered or promised is self-serving. Moreover, to become angry, disappointed and utter remarks that malign this person because they have not lived up to your expectations is actually a character flaw on your part...not theirs...
Very wise words.
I think what bothers quite a few on this list is the blind hero worship. Some very unlikely heroes have been created here, indeed, over the years.
Some have been put on pedestals, and some do not like it when others point out those pedestals aren't so shiny and their idol does in fact have feet of clay.
Inevitably, humans will disappoint each other.
What does not sit well for me is when those foibles, transgressions, and mistakes are swept under the rug, whispered about only in select circles, or hinted about darkly.
I feel so very bad for the newbs to the dog world, or to the Doberman breed--what a minefield they must tiptoe through!
I want the public to be educated, truly educated, so they at least have the option--if their character allows--to choose wisely and well, and then successfully raise that puppy or rehab that rescue, so that it becomes a breed ambassador.
To speak to our one-post wonders who come on to poke and stir--why do you not contribute more to this forum, if you so disagree with those who post here? If you disagree with something I post, or how I post it, then post the opposing viewpoint, yourself. Have the integrity to attempt to educate folks in the way you see best---that's why it's an open forum.
As for "not thanking" Meadowcat's post, erm, she and I have a long history of cooperation and collaboration, working towards the welfare of our own animals, and those in foster care.
I am still pondering her post, frankly, and tend to not "thank" posts that are very long and weighty, with lots of food for thought, until I can digest those words, and feel qualified to comment.
I was busy all day on a rescue transport, so, nope, haven't thanked the post yet, and still thinking. Which is likely more than some are doing, and that's a shame, as MC clearly tried to make some good points, not sure some of them weren't completely missed by the few usual complainers.