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post #26 of 35 (permalink) Old 11-23-2012, 02:44 PM
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What's even more crazy is that he has told me and Ghetto if Ghetto ever bites him, he's gone.

" Oh o.k daddy, its okay for him to bite me 1-2-3-4-5 times and keep him? But if he bites you once he's gone?"
Made no sense to me
like i said...stop going over there. it's obvious to me he doesn't care enough to do something about it, so why bother spending time there?

i understand he's your dad, but i'm sure there are better people to spend time with than someone who doesn't give a spit if you're injured in his home.

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I have gone silent and not spoken to certain family members for 1-2 yr stretches over less than what you've endured.
Just because someone is blood doesn't mean they deserve to be in your life...really.

Your dad better hope he's able to be sued to kingdom come. Why AC hasn't been called over bite incidents is beyond me. That oversight could potentially cost someone their life.

I also don't buy the whole "how they're raised" thing, albeit certainly has a large role-yet to attribute dogs behaviors simply on rearing methods while not acknowledging DNA makes no sense to me- some animals are just mental....some are mental in the wrong hands.

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You have every right to say no if you don't feel safe to watch after Ghetto for your dad. Like others have mentioned before, you are an adult and you have the right to say no and make decisions for yourself. I just don't understand why your father doesn't discipline Ghetto (If he doesn't) and defend the dog over you, when you have evidence that Ghetto is aggressive and bitten you 5 times. It sounds rough and mean to some point, but if your father gets mad at you for not watching his dog, tough luck for him. He won't get anybody else watch his dog if his dog is going to continue behave like that. It may hurt to see your father mad all the time, but looks like he'll have to learn the hard way and he doesn't get things he wants his way.

Do you perhaps know how Ghetto became aggressive? Did it start with the bone? I think this aggression issue can be solved, but your father will have to be the one to do it. After all, he is the dominant one in the pack (Hopefully he is, and not Ghetto dominating over your father) and he should be setting the rules for Ghetto. Dogs need a dominant male in a pack and your father should be that alpha male.

I also don't think getting rid of the bone will solve the aggressive behavior over protecting his objects. It's most likely he'll find something else to guard, such as perhaps his food bowl, favorite toy, etc. My dog had an aggression over his objects. He would bite anybody if they were even near him (Not as bad as Ghetto, I admit) but he wouldn't have behaved if I didn't discipline him and set the boundaries.

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There are a lot of good tips here but all the training tips you get here aren't going to help much if your dad isn't willing to listen to them. If you can't appeal to your dad's common sense about addressing Ghetto's aggression issues try appealing to his pocket book. If that dog gets out and bites someone who isn't family and won't be as tolerant wouldn't hesitate to press charges against your dad for having an aggressive dog not to mention Animal Control in just about any state will put the dog down and still charge him with having an aggressive animal. Especially since the dog does have a bite history.
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Here's a weird situation that happened:
Me and dad were living in a condo, and they're were many many cats around. Now I love ALL ANIMALS with a passion not just dogs. So one day, coming home from work, Ghetto was in the trunk part of my jeep. When I went to open it he shot out after a cat i DID NOT SEE. I quickly took after him not thinking. He has the cat in his mouth, I grab his head and trying to get him to let the cat go and he's not. Then I grab his collar and tail and yank him back and forth to let go of the cat, which he finally did and ran off. When everything calmed down I was like. " Oh my god, Ghetto could've really hurt me trying to get him to let go of that cat". I still dont understand that situation. He didnt growl or look at me mean, he was just still looking at where the cat ran off to.

How could you bit me for wanting to pick you up? But I can lift you 4 feet off the ground to let go of a cat.. I told my father today about how I felt about Ghetto. It was brought up because I called to ask him to bring over his carpet cleaner and guess what he asked me!!!??? Can Bronson spend the night?! I went off and then calmed down. He's mad and not bring over the carpet cleaner...
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Ok, just a guess based on names but Ghetto (nice name, btw) and Bronson are both males? And Ghetto has a well demonstrated history of guarding and aggression?

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OH NO BRONSON ISNT GOING NEAR HIM, NONE OF US ARE. I was just shocked that he even asked.
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My dad loves dobermans, he's the reason I love them so much. I took you guys advice and if he wants to see them he can come over here.... Or get rid of Ghetto.. I know his name is very... out there. Every time i say his name people alway say, " Wait, whats his name again?"

BTW, he was named by my Step- cousin, who is named...Muffin... and they lived in the ghetto. Guess it stuck.
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My dad loves dobermans, he's the reason I love them so much. I took you guys advice and if he wants to see them he can come over here.... Or get rid of Ghetto.. I know his name is very... out there. Every time i say his name people alway say, " Wait, whats his name again?"

BTW, he was named by my Step- cousin, who is named...Muffin... and they lived in the ghetto. Guess it stuck.
Like....real name is Muffin, or nicknamed? o.o

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Lol, as far as I know, Muffin is her real name...her siblings are ray ray and pooh. We do not talk anymore. My name is Dominique so, Im cool.
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