Increasingly I am becoming envious of some of you guys.
Well Toby is going through a stage (I hope it is a stage) where he doesnt give me cuddles anymore.
Once upon a time he would try to get on my knee, he would stay at my side all day and all night long. He craved to be touched, to be cossetted.
But no longer.
Nowadays he often takes himself off to sleep on my bed when we are all sitting in the living room, (we live in a one storey house).
Now fact is I will gladly share my 2 seater sofa with him on an evening but the thing is, whereas before we kind of moulded around each other, now he pushes and shoves till I am just perched on the edge. Which as you can imagine is just not comfortable. So I ask him to let me have a bit of room and off he huffs to the bedroom as if I have just thrown him out into the snow.
He used to give me lots of kisses, but now if I bend down to him he turns his head away and point blank refuses to give me a kiss no matter what I do. Okay, a dog doesnt have to do this, but from giving me kisses, to not, well I am starting to feel a little unloved. Russell gives me kisses all the time and he is a grumpy old so and so, not a Velcro dog as my Dobe is supposed to be.
In the morning he comes down the corridor to my bedroom door, knocks and is let in and up on the bed for a morning cuddle, but this actually consists of him just giving himself a good wash, (usually his privates), followed by him going to sleep. Yes it is a deep sleep, nothing wakes him, not unless I get out of bed, so he obviously feels safe there, but I would like a little bit of a cuddle and if that isn't going to happen a bit of acknowledgement it is my bed he is on, not his, because he tries to shove me away with his big paws and sometimes he hurts.
When he first sees me in the morning he wags his little nub, he stretches a lot and sort of licks his teeth whilst snapping them shut, but no sneaky kiss on the hand and certainly no allowing mum to give him a quick cuddle. Oh no! That is just so not happening.
When it comes to be stroked it is on his terms, he always presents his bottom towards me, rarely do I get to talk to his head. When I touch his flanks he rakes his teeth along my hand. (my vet has concluded he is ticklish as there is nothing wrong with his hips etc).
When we are out, if I am alone with him he stays close, if I am with my friend and her dogs I don't see him for dust and I truly think he doesn't give a fig about me.
When I am on the computer he does put his head in front of the screen or on top of the keyboard, but there is no affection behind the action. He wants me to touch him then looks so bloody miserable that I am doing so I stop and then he really gets insistent he wants touching. However, if I put the computer aside, he walks off. He isn't interested in me anymore.
Toby isn't showing the love and I am definitely not feeling it.