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Old 07-09-2010, 05:16 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Apparently I abuse my dog?

Firstly, sorry if this is on the wrong board, but I really need to rant before I just explode. :/

I've lived in my little village since I was 8 years old (I'm now almost 23), so I thought my family and myself were fairly well known - especially on my street as there are only 6 houses. Since I was about 11/12/13, we got new neighbours (attached to us, I live in a semi). They have pretty much caused problems from day one. The lady, Maria, has struck my mother when my mother was doing the gardening and then had her boyfriend Mark come over in the evening threatening us. Also lots of loud music in the early hours in the morning, etc. You get the picture..

There is also a 'dog trainer' a couple of doors down, Jenny, who I used to respect until she basically got very close to Maria and started ignoring me whenever I said hello (until I got Blitzer).

Now, Blitz has just turned 6 months and I got him when he was about 10 or 11 weeks. I admit I have raised my voice a few times (just saying oi or his name), but I would never, ever beat him or hurt him like that.

So, dog trainer Jenny came to our backgate last Wednesday when me and my partner were trying to bring the shopping in. My mother had bathed him while we were out and she hadn't put his collar back on. Which is not really a big deal at this point. Blitz usually runs to the gate to greet us, then backs off when he sees we have lots of shopping bags. This time however, something outside caught his attention and he tried to dart out of the gate, so I grabbed him. I didn't think, I just reacted - dropped the shopping in my left hand to grab him and got his ear. Of course, he cried, backed up and I let him go.

Jenny came over while my partner was out getting more bags and I was taking Blitz inside. I assumed she just came over to see what he was crying at, but when my partner came back he said that "someone, I can't say who, saw the puppy being beaten and kicked."

Next day, Jenny and I had words and she accidentally said it was Maria who apparently saw my partner kick Blitz Wednesday afternoon. I said it was all bull as nobody here would do that but she wouldn't have it. My partner didn't get back until nearly 7pm (he works 8-5 five days a week) because his bus broke down, so how could he have supposedly kicked Blitz in the afternoon? She still had none of that.

I lost my temper and started arguing with her, saying that Maria is just a lying cow. Jenny then said something along the lines of, "He cries a lot, not whines, cries. If I hear him again I'm calling the RSPCA." So I said fine.

Sometimes if I leave the house to go to the shop, Blitz follows me to the gate and sometimes goes crying back to my mother or whoever is home. He also cries if my cat is on the fence because he can't reach her.

Then what ticked me off even more was when she said, "Because he is a Dobermann, if you hit him he will bite you. I would hate for him to bite my child and he'd have to be destroyed." I mean.. what? You're supposed to be a dog trainer? Yet you barge through my BACK GATE, say Blitz isn't trained because he jumps up at you (people we know and love come through the back gate, everyone else goes to the front door and he doesn't jump at them) and you've pretty much been telling me from day one that he's going to grow up aggressive?

Fortunately, my other neighbours calmed me down a little saying if the RSPCA were called they would be right over.

But I could just cry.

One of my neighbours (also was my driving instructor who has been a family friend since before we even moved here), also told me that Jenny told her that SHE saw ME kicking him.

So, who is supposed to be abusing Blitz?

I really don't think I'll be able to hold my tongue if Jenny comes through that back gate again.

Sorry for the longness, just needed to get this out. Despite how many people I've ranted to, it doesn't make me feel better.

On the bright side though, last night I found we have another Dobie in my village - 8 year old male, black and tan Fritz. And we're seeing Suzanne's gorgeous Murphy this Sunday.
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Old 07-09-2010, 05:30 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Well, don't worry about the RSPCA - if someone does call them, it will take them about 2 minutes to figure out that it's a malicious call and your dog isn't abused. They are well used to malicious calls by unpleasant people who waste their time and resources for nothing.

Unfortunately there are stupid and vile people everywhere and all you can really do is stand your ground when they force themselves into your world and ignore them the rest of the time.

Now, don't forget to take a camera with you when you meet Suzanne and Murphy. If we don't get pics, you'll REALLY know the meaning of trouble!!!
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i agree with Crow. Firstly why would an abused dog want to greet you? why would an abused dog whine/cry when you leave.?
These people clearly have no clue and are probably jealous of you in some way.
I say ignore them, say nothing and get on with it. Let them call the RSPCA,.

If my neighbours called the RSPCA everytime i rasied my voice to dogs or the kids there would always someone at my door.
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Old 07-09-2010, 05:41 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Thanks Crow. I'm confident that the RSPCA will see that, but I think what I'm most worried about is when I take Blitz for walks, people might be thinking, "Is that the poor puppy being abused?" I know it's probably silly to worry about that, but it's heart breaking that someone (other than cowface next door) thinks I would do that to any animal. Especially my little boy.

But yes, I do plan on taking lots of pictures if that's okay with Suzanne!

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Thanks lynz. I did say that to Jenny as well. Blitz is so quick to run to the gate just after 6 because he knows my partner is about to walk through it. Or if we're in the car, my mother says as soon as he hears the car he's by the gate.

My mother was saying the other day though that she thought it was he fault because she's chased Blitz with the mop a few times around the garden. He does seem to love it and doesn't seem scared by it, lol. Plus it's hilarious trying to watch him run off with it when my mother's back is turned.

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Thanks Crow. I'm confident that the RSPCA will see that, but I think what I'm most worried about is when I take Blitz for walks, people might be thinking, "Is that the poor puppy being abused?" I know it's probably silly to worry about that, but it's heart breaking that someone (other than cowface next door) thinks I would do that to any animal. Especially my little boy.
Very few people would think that. Anyone with the slightest clue about dogs can tell the difference between an unhappy and a happy dog a mile off.

When I first got my old rescue Dobe, he was skeletal and I got a few nasty comments from people who clearly imagined that I was starving him ... obviously a sharp riposte from me put that one to bed for them. Years later, when his back legs were failing, causing him to walk in a wobbly, kind of cringe-looking way, I got some nasty looks from people and a few interfering jerks who told me I should have had him pts already (like I wasn't monitoring his quality of life every day, knowing the moment was coming, and like I didn't know my dog a million times better than they did!).

You just have to adopt a thick skin towards these people. Some are well-meaning, genuinely concerned but ignorant. Others just see an opportunity to stick the knife into someone. The latter group can stew in their own acid as far as I'm concerned.
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Old 07-09-2010, 06:08 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Wow, I'm sorry to hear about that, Crow. I kind of know what you must have gone through with your skeletal dog though - Blitz didn't adjust as quickly as I'd hoped and lost quite a bit of weight when he came here. I guess most people knew I wasn't starving him though (I hope), as I never got any rude remarks or comments. He plumped up again fairly quickly at least.

I know my neighbours are a piece of work, but I never would have guessed they'd stoop this low. :/ But then who wouldn't be jealous when I have the most gorgeous dog in the village! Hehehehe
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I would ignore your neighbor and not worry about the RSPCA, I am an investigator for my local SPCA and we do responde to complaints everyday of animals being abused by their owners, it takes more than your neighbor calling, there needs to be evidence of abuse. These kind of complaints almost always go nowhere.
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Thanks dragonflyz. Still feel kinda crushed though. Hopefully something I'll get over soon. I know he's a great guy at least. ^.^
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DOCUMENTATION... That's all I can say. Whenever your neighbours try to pull this crap on you, write it down. Keep a journal of everything that has happened, all allegations, and all threats.

If/When the RSPCA does come calling, and when you show them the logs of what you have had to deal with, they will quickly dismiss these things if they know that you saw this coming, and kept a record of it.

Then hopefully your so called "neighbours" may actually get reprimanded, or cited for launching false claims and investigations.

Although... looking at your avatar... He looks awfully abused... I think we should get him out of there right away!!
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Thanks Swoosh, was sort of tempted to call them myself to see if it would shut the neighbours up. :/ I will keep a log, though.

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Lol, after his morning walk and beating up my morning Dr Pepper bottle. He does look kind of dead, haha. He usually at least opens his eyes if I'm moving around the house.

Excuse the messy carpet. D: I think my hoover is blocked somewhere and I'm still trying to figure out how to take it apart.
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A little off-topic, sorry for the hijack...
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...why would an abused dog want to greet you?
I see this a lot. Pet dogs are bred to be emotionally attached to people. Many abused dogs greet their abusive owner because their deep-seated need to be close to their "person" overrides their fear of being hurt.
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...why would an abused dog whine/cry when you leave?
Good observation. An abused dog is probably very relieved when the abuser puts distance between them.
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When I first got my old rescue Dobe, he was skeletal and I got a few nasty comments from people who clearly imagined that I was starving him...
About 20 years ago I took in an elderly Dobe bitch who weighed ~38 lbs instead of the 65 she should have weighed. She had sarcoptic mange from nose to tail and her skin looked as though she'd been roasted.
As she regained her health I started walking her around the neighborhood for exercise, never imagining that passers-by would assume I was responsible for her poor condition. Some people were outraged at this seeming abuse, but no one thought to ask me what the deal was with the dog. Luckily, I had a neighbor who used the same vet and she stood up for me and told people what was really going on.
Also, when the vet posted "Before" and "After" pix of the old girl many people refused to believe it was the same dog, but my neighbor could--and did, bless her heart--tell people it really happened.
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