Stick to your good ethics, and write this one up as "Phew, dodged a bullet there, thank goodness that human showed me their true colors, prior to getting tangled up with them."
It's tough, finding an ethical breeder who does things right, and with whom you feel you can communicate.
I've personally seen some "reputable" breeders on this and other forums where I've felt the word "batshit" could easily have been substituted.
Eh, it is what it is. Sometimes we humans expect that, because of someone's role, they should automatically be professional, polite, and trustworthy, and it kinda kerfuffles us when they just clearly are NOT.
Hang in there. It will pay off, in the end.
Years ago, when my mother used to show, we had dealt with that a few times.
It is really sad to see people who have this standpoint, but it really comes down to egos and ignorance.
I agree with you, if that is the way this "breeder" is going to be, then screw them anyway, you don't want an animal for someone who claims to be "bettering the breed", especially if they refer you to a BYB.
I am actually in the process of slowly looking for another Doberman of my own, but really not wanting to rush anything, and I have ran into some breeders especially in the Vegas and California area that like to "breed" oversized guard dogs, and have no intentions of breeding correctly, hence the "33 inch shoulder height they brag about.